Saturday, 19 October 2019

You Are Never Going to Be Loved - Surviving Domestic Violence

Arlene R. Major
You are never going to be loved.”

No one will ever want you.”

You are used goods.”

If you don’t know how to please a man what good are you?”

I spent most of my life believing that all I had to do was keep others happy in order to be happy myself.

However, these statements only scratch the surface of what it is like to be in a domestic violence situation. 

I stood toe to toe with my abuser and said "swing".  I was tired and wanted out.  But it did not end there, because we would cross paths again and he would attempt to lure me back.  It was not until years later, my husband (then boyfriend - NOT my abuser) told me this:  "I love you, but you have got to decide if you want to remain a victim or you want victory over this".  I made a decision:  a decision to forgive those who hurt me and how I hurt myself. I journeyed through regaining the love I needed to have for myself in order for my life to move forward, and I have never looked back.

I just knew that after going through verbal, physical and mental abuse and surviving it, telling my story and sharing the hurt, the pain, the struggle and going through the rebuild that this was something that needed to be shared with others.

While many are beginning to share their stories of survival, perseverance, triumph and prevention through my radio show, blogs and annual conference, there are still many stories that go unheard, many voices lost in the darkness.

Everybody wants change and I’m still screaming, "Let us be the change we want to see!" This year is the fifth annual conference and I get amazed every time I put the words "50 Shades of Blue Baltimore" down because this is not just another yearly conference of sharing and caring, but an ongoing movement of enlightenment and power!  Being able to encourage men and women who have been abused and offer access to helpful and bountiful resource and see the community come out to support their own is what makes this something that I strive to do every year.

We are aiming this year to provide more abused men with preventative solutions, encourage our abused youth, young adults, men and women with hope for a brighter future all while showing them how to break the chains of an abusive history. We continue to ask for community support and donations to be able to provide vendors, music, food and fun! Your support is Key to helping us shed more light on a growing problem.

We can no longer be silent while others lose their family and friends to senseless violence. We have a right to be heard and a right to stand and say NO MORE! 

You can help make a difference.  Please share this with your networks and please leave your comments below.  Thanks.  

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Friday, 18 October 2019

For the Lovers - by Carla Cherry

Carla Cherry
Today, I am privileged to share this beautiful and powerful poem by Carla Cherry.  

 





For the Lovers 

As usual, journalists do what Big Business won’t.
Chirography in soil: I am only 15.
Since two-thirds of the world’s cocoa
is produced by the hands of two million West African children,
and after twenty years the corporations can’t keep the pledge to eradicate child labor,
chocolates should come wrapped in tattered rags.
Those of us who eat it should be compelled to drink water
that looks like milk
out of a dirty bucket.
All chocolate should be white like the cocoa beans it comes from.
It doesn’t deserve the beauty of brown.
Chocolates should taste like
the sour salt of sweat,
the tears of boys that miss their mothers, fathers, villages, and home-cooked meals,
the dirt embedded underneath their fingernails and in their second-hand clothes,
the blood that oozes when they cut themselves.
Hands that should be holding pencils and books
clench knives to cut open cocoa pods,
swing machetes against tall grasses to clear the land.
They fall asleep to the rhythm of back spasms.
For Mars
Nestle
Hershey
Godiva
to make suffering sweet,
in Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Brazil, and Belize,
children join their parents in the fields,
blistered hand in blistered hand,
risking dehydration, heat stress, chronic kidney disease.
How many more will wave,
yell Mwen Byen as they leave Haiti
for 12-hour days in the bayetes of the Dominican Republic.
No electricity,
running water,
indoor toilets.
The bending and rising at the waist,
the swish and clang of machete against cane,
from the wax, to the wane of the sun.
Safe from the loss of lus soli.
Mwen Byen.

Copyright © Carla Cherry 2019
ALL RIGHTS RESERVED 


You can help us make a difference.  Go here for more from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2019.  

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Carla M. Cherry is an English teacher from New York. Her poems have appeared in Anderbo, Eunoia Review, Dissident Voice, Random Sample Review, MemoryHouse Magazine, Bop Dead City, Down in the Dirt, In Between Hangovers, Firefly Magazine, Picaroon Poetry, Streetlight Press, Ariel Chart, Culture Cult Magazine, Hollow, Synaeresis, Interstice, Terra Preta Review, and Maximum Tilt. She has published four books of poetry through Wasteland Press: Gnat Feathers and Butterfly Wings (2008), Thirty Dollars and a Bowl of Soup (2017), Honeysuckle Me (2017), and These Pearls Are Real (2018). 

Thursday, 17 October 2019

Allowing Something to Flourish – Supporting Nonviolent Social Action!

Extinction Rebellion Demo in London
In this post, NVC Certified Trainer Ceri Buckmaster explores her involvement in applying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to social movements, and particularly to Extinction Rebellion.  

Extinction Rebellion were unique in that they approached NVC with a request for training and support in nonviolence and de-escalation.  Ceri talks about her own experience of involvement in organising and leading these trainings, sharing NVC skills with several hundred people. 

Go here to read this post by Ceri Buckmaster on using NVC with Extinction Rebellion.  Many thanks to Ceri and to NVC-UK.  

You can help make a difference.  Go here for more from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2019.

Please leave your comments below and please share this with your networks.  Thanks.  

See also:  A Day in the Life of an Extinction Rebellion Protester.  


Ceri Buckmaster runs workshops and supports people and organisations in conflict through mediation and setting up systems to deal with conflict long term. 

Her sharing of NVC rests on the 4 pillars of:
  • Building a culture of Consent,
  • Raising awareness of power and privilege,
  • Finding ways of embracing and transforming conflict and,
  • Holding space for grief and mourning.
She also supports people to create more robust relationships based on transparency, openness, and mutual care. All of her work promotes self-care, care for the other, and care for ‘us’ and our environment.    








Tuesday, 8 October 2019

Law of Attraction Technique That WORKS FASTER Than Scripting


 

I have been using the Law of Attraction to manifest things for many years, and I am learning a lot more about the Law of Attraction now.  For more about how you can manifest, download my FREE (for now) ebook, Secrets of Manifestation

I have really been enjoying the videos from this sista.  When she talks about scripting, she really mean affirmations.  Lots of people are talking about "scripting", which is another term for affirmations.  Whether you are writing them or speaking them, they are affirmations. 

I am talking about deliberate manifestation, also known as conscious creation.  

Bottom line, you can have what you want.  
And you can use words to manifest what you want.  


You can use the Law of Attraction (LOA) to make profound changes in your life.  For more about this, download my FREE (for now) ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  It is still free at this moment, but I will start charging for it soon.  After you read it, contact me for a free consultation.  My contact details are in the book. 

I am very passionate about manifestation, and I am posting loads of blogs about it.  To read some of them, go here to read Manifesting Accurately:  Scripting

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Monday, 7 October 2019

Manifesting Accurately: Scripting



I love this work.  I am very passionate about manifesting, and helping others to manifest.  Manifesting basically means having what you want.  And you can.  Bottom line:  you can have what you want.   

This blog post lists some of my other posts about manifestation.  See below for more. 

Joseph Alai posts lots of great information about manifestation.  Check out this video.  I like his work, because he talks about how to manifest systematically. 

He's talking about manifesting through scripting, i.e. using affirmations.  Visualization, which he calls "imagining", can add more power to your affirmations, and I can help you to imagine, or visualize, more clearly and more effectively.   

I am brilliant at manifesting, and I am learning a lot from these videos.  For more information, check out the blog posts listed below, and download my ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  After you read it, you can contact me for a free consultation - my contact details are in the book.  I WILL HELP YOU - that's why I am posting these blog posts - in order to help you.  I am passionate about helping you. 

You can manifest money, relationships, career success - whatever you want.  

Plus go here to read my article, "Guided Visualization:  Your Key to Power". 

I am posting loads more blogs about manifestation, i.e. how to attract what we want.  Some of my recent blogs include:  

How to Visualize for MAXIMUM Results Using the Law of Attraction 



  




I am posting lots more of these types of blogs.  To keep up with this material, go here to join my online group The Key to Everything.  

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Wednesday, 2 October 2019

How to Visualize for MAXIMUM Results Using the Law of Attraction

 

 
I have been using the Law of Attraction to manifest things for many years, and I am learning a lot more about the Law of Attraction now. For more about my manifestation journey, and to learn how to manifest what you want, download my FREE (for now) ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  After you have read it, please contact me and I WILL HELP YOU.  My contact details are in the book.  

I am talking about deliberate manifestation, also known as conscious creation.  

Bottom line, you can have what you want.   

I have really been enjoying the videos from this sista, The Love Gal. 

You can use the Law of Attraction (LOA) to make profound changes in your life. For more about this, download my FREE (for now) ebook, Secrets of Manifestation. It is still free at this moment, but I will start charging for it soon. After you read it, contact me for a free consultation and I WILL HELP YOU. My contact details are in the book. 

See also:  Do this & BE a Manifesting MACHINE!

Please share this with your networks and please leave your comments below. Thanks. 

I am posting loads about manifestation at the moment.  To keep up with these blogs, please join my online group, The Key to Everything.  

Here's to your success!  

 

Tuesday, 1 October 2019

Not Seeing Results with Your Manifesting? You Can Set the INTENTION to See Results

I am passionate about manifestation - finding new ways to manifest what I want, and helping people like you to do so, too.  That's why I have been blogging a lot about manifestation lately.  I am already brilliant at manifesting, and I'm eagerly learning more manifestation methods.   

I am talking about deliberate manifestation, what is sometimes called conscious creation.  


Bottom line:  you can have what you want.

Amy Westmore is another great manifestor I have discovered recently.  

As she says, it's normal to experience resistance.  All of us have some resistance. 

Check this out - you can use the power of intention in order to get the results you want.  You can use intention to see results quickly and easily - even if you don't know how.  

Go here to download my FREE (for now) ebook Secrets of Manifestation.  And for more great content, go here to join my group, The Key to Everything.  

After you have read Secrets of Manifestation, contact me if you want to and  I WILL HELP YOU.  My contact details are in the book. 

See also:  Do this & BE a Manifesting MACHINE!  

For more great blog posts, join my online group, The Key to Everything.  

Please share this with your networks and please leave your comments below.  Thanks.  

Here's to your success!  


Monday, 30 September 2019

Do this & BE a Manifesting MACHINE!


I am already great at manifesting, and if you contact me here, I will help you to become great at it, too.  

I am really enjoying Joseph Alai's videos, and I am learning so much from him!  One thing I like about his work is that he uses systematic, laser-targeted methods. 

It's all about practice.  Practice, practice, practice. If you don't practice manifesting every day, you "loosen your manifesting muscle".  You will find yourself back at square one.  Your mind and your experience will become saturated with doubt and you will forget you can manifest things. 

Bottom line:  you can have what you want.  

Go here to download my FREE (for now) ebook Secrets of Manifestation.  And for more great content, go here to join my group, The Key to Everything.  

Here's to your success!  
 
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Monday, 9 September 2019

Two Universal Laws That Will IMPROVE Your Law of Attraction Efforts

   


I have really been enjoying the videos from this sista.  Check it out:  

The Law of Action - actually, if you are at the right vibrational level, you don't need to do anything else.  You can, and will, receive what you want.  Marilyn Jennett, the author of Feel Free to Prosper, states that sometimes, we have to just sit back and relax.  Sometimes, that is the most appropriate thing to do.  

The work and effort go into raising your vibration to the appropriate vibrational level.  

The Law of Expectation:  our toxic thoughts and beliefs can, and will, sabotage our efforts. That's why we need to deal with and eliminate them. 

You can use the Law of Attraction (LOA) to make profound changes in your life.  For more about this, download my FREE (for now) ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  Once you have read it, contact me if you want some help on your manifestation journey. 

Please share this with your networks and please leave your comments below.  Thanks.  

See also:  How to Manifest $1 Million.  

I am still learning about manifestation.  I'm great at manifesting, but there is still a lot to learn.  Please subscribe to this blog to keep up-to-date with the material I am posting.  And remember, bottom line:  you can have what you want. 

Here to your success!  



Monday, 2 September 2019

How to Manifest $1 Million


I love Jake Ducey's enthusiasm.  His energy is infectious.  

In this video, he  shares the 55 x 5 method and how he used it to attract financial success.  You may have to do something that you feel silly doing.  So what?  If it leads to you becoming rich, becoming successful, achieving your goals and transforming your life, what difference does it make that you feel silly?  

If you feel silly - get over it!!!

Bottom line:  You CAN have what you want.  You can attract what you want.  And I WILL HELP YOU. 

See also:  Jake Ducey on How to Manifest $1 Million, in which he shares a very powerful method of visualization to achieve financial success. 

For more about visualization, see: This Visualization Attracts Money Fast (within 7 days). 

Plus, for more about visualization, download my FREE ebook, Secrets of ManifestationAfter you have read it, contact me for help with achieving your goals.  My contact details are in the book.  
 
Please share this with your networks.  

How have you used affirmations and visualization?  How have you used 55 x 5?  Please leave your comments below

Here's to your success!  







Tuesday, 23 July 2019

Manifesting Money: The Simplest Way

 

I've been watching lots of videos by Joseph Alai this week.  He's great.  

Bottom line:  you can have anything you want.  

He explains in detail exactly how he manifests money and other things.  

The universe is brilliant at helping us to manifest.  The experience of manifesting things can be amazing.  

I am brilliant at manifesting.  For more about manifestation, go here to download my FREE ebook Secrets of Manifestation.  

See also:  How Visualization Works.  

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Monday, 22 July 2019

Teen dies in front of 50 classmates after 'being bullied at school'

Yet another horrible, tragic story.  And yet again, it could have been prevented.   


The language we use about ourselves, and to ourselves, can cause a great deal of psychological and emotional damage. And when bullying takes place, hurtful words can be internalised - they become part of us. The results can be devastating and even fatal. 

In NVC, certain types of speech, including blaming, labelling (name-calling), judging and threatening are called "jackal speech". But we can translate the jackals into more helpful, "giraffe speech".  

Bullying in our schools is happening with shocking frequency. But we can put a stop to it.  

NVC (Nonviolent Communication) is about EMPATHY.  

Our children are precious. They are the future. We MUST tackle this problem. And when we have the skills, we can.  

 


 

Friday, 28 June 2019

What Is Dream Analysis?

   You can open up amazing insights and understandings by analysing your dreams.

If you are looking for the meanings of your dreams, you can find many sources of dream interpretation. Dream interpretation involves imposing meanings on the various elements of your dreams. In other words, “a house means this, a key means this”, etc.

However, dream interpretation is not dream analysis.  I find dream analysis is often much more helpful and far more interesting than dream interpretation.

The Difference between Dream Interpretation and Dream Analysis

As I have said, dream interpretation involves imposing meanings on your dreams. Freud wrote The Interpretation of Dreams, and many, many people are offering dream interpretation. Google “Dream Interpretation” and you will find loads of information about this.  You can also find lots of dream dictionaries and similar books.

You will probably find many different interpretations of your dreams and the elements within them – the people and activities, plus any objects which appear in your dreams. Sometimes, these interpretations may conflict, and this can be confusing.  

Dream analysis, on the other hand, involves analysing the elements of your dreams. This is done over a period of time. Jung wrote about this, and I find his work very helpful, interesting and engaging. He also wrote about what he called the “collective unconscious”, and the fact that some symbols are common among all of us. But this is not always the case.

The elements of your dreams may be unique to you. For example, you could have cats appear in your dreams. It's up to you to discover what the cat represents your unconscious mind. More about this below.

The unconscious mind has its own language, and dreams use that language. The dream is an attempt by your unconscious mind to communicate with you. Learn the language of your unconscious mind and you will discover a wealth of information.

Dream interpretation can be helpful at times, if you are struggling to understand the meaning of your dreams. But remember, the meaning will often be different for every person.

Remembering Your Dreams

Go to bed at night with the intention of remembering your dreams. Write down anything you remember, even if it is just a tiny snippet.  Keep doing this and you will start to remember more and more of your dreams. 


Recording Your Dreams

I recommend you record your dreams. Keep pen and paper, or your dream journal, by your bed so that you can write down your dreams as soon as you awaken. Alternatively, you can record your dreams on an mp3 recorder or other digital audio recorder if this is easier for you. You can even use an old-fashioned cassette recorder for this.

Make sure you record your dream in present tense – as if it is happening now. That's because that is what the unconscious mind understands. By analysing your dreams, you are opening up a channel of communication between your conscious and unconscious minds.

You will start to see certain elements repeated in your dreams. This helps you to understand a pattern across several dreams. You are on your way to maximising your understanding of your dreams! 

Go here for an article on How to Record Your Dreams. I don't use these methods, but you may find them useful.

Dream Symbols

Once you start to write down your dreams, you will start to see certain patterns. For example, you might see a cat repeatedly in different dreams. This would mean that, for you, the cat is a dream symbol. In one dream, the cat might be running away; in another, it could be eating, or playing, or hunting, or sleeping. Recording your dreams will help you to begin to understand that different actions by the cat have different meanings.

A symbol can pretty much be anything – a building, a person, a colour, a time of day, etc.

For me, vehicles are an important symbol. I have had cars, trains, buses and airplanes in different dreams over the years. Some of my other symbols are staircases and elevators (lifts). My symbols are unique to me, as yours will often be unique to you.

There is much more to be said about dream analysis, and I shall publish another blog post about this soon.

Analysing your dreams can help you to understand things about your life, and give you skills to change your outcomes and improve your results. Good luck with analysing your dreams!


If you want to make progress towards achieving your goals, the first step is to eliminate your blocks to abundance.  Contact me here if you would like help with achieving your goals and living your ideal life.

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Monday, 24 June 2019

Empathy in a Difficult and Dangerous World

Giraffe speech helps us to connect
Empathy means to stand in another person's shoes, i.e. to see things from their perspective. 

EMPATHY is at the heart of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).  In an NVC context, empathy means to connect with feelings and needs - our own and other people's.

In order to be able to connect with someone else in an empathetic way, we first need to have empathy for ourselves.  

In NVC, empathetic speech is called "giraffe speech".  This is speech which helps us to connect with others and with our own experience. 

With all the violence and conflict all over the world, there has never been a greater need for NVC skills.  NVC helps us to connect using language - to connect with other people's needs and to express our own.

Empathy can be, and has been, used in many situations, including those involving extreme violence.

I am sure you have experienced empathy - either using it yourself or receiving it from someone else, or both.  I encourage you to blog about your experience of empathy in your home, with your family, at your workplace, or in any other situation.

Please post your blog post to the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2019.  Go here for details.

Go here to read the blogs from 2018

Go here for the 2019 blogs

We look forward to hearing from you!

Go here for short films about the basics of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

Go here for a short film about NVC and parenting.

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Monday, 10 June 2019

How Visualization Works


Visualisation is a very powerful process. 

As Sunny Sharma explains here, when we visualize, our minds cannot tell whether what we are seeing is happening in the past, present or future.  

He also suggests that we use visualisation as a regular daily practice.  The more we do it, the better we get at it. 

For more about visualisation, and the difference between creative visualisation and guided visualisation, go here to download my FREE ebook Secrets of Manifestation.  

See also:  Guided Visualisation:  Your Key to Power

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Monday, 3 June 2019

Review of Energy Oracle Cards

Energy Oracle Cards
I own several oracle card decks, and this is one of my favourites.  It's my go-to card deck when I can't make sense of what the other cards are telling me.   



The creator of the Energy Oracle Cards cards, Sandra Anne Taylor, author of Your Quantum Breakthrough Code, states that they make us aware of which energies are around at the moment, and where they may lead. This means we can have different readings on different days, as the energies are always changing.  

In truth, all oracle cards work this way, although most cards – and readers – won't tell you this. Divination consists of ascertaining what energies are influencing you, and what may result from them – but this is constantly changing.  

I find these cards very easy to use and understand.  

Some of the cards will be very familiar as they are similar to Tarot cards, although with different names and numbers. Others depict angels and other beings. The illustrations are beautiful. 

The cards can be read either upright or reversed. Sometimes the reversed cards, such as “Broken Heart” or “Hostilities”, are more positive than when the cards are upright. 

My one quibble with the Energy Oracle Cards is that they are numbered, but the numbers do not correspond to the page numbers in the accompanying booklet. Nor are the cards in alphabetical order. I am used to using angel cards, which tend to be alphabetical, so I found this deck a bit confusing at first. But this is a minor quibble.  

If you are looking for a reliable source of divination, I strongly recommend the Energy Oracle Cards.  

See also:  Angel Astrology 101