When You Are Unable to Believe

This is a great video on what to do when you want to manifest something but you don't believe you can.  

If you want to attract more money, more opportunities, better health, better relationships - but you don't believe you can -  use this method.   

Our limiting beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, opinions, etc. are what gets in the way of our achieving our goals. 

The way our brains are wired contributes to our results.  To change our results, we need to change our brain chemistry, i.e. the way our synapses fire.  

EFT tapping is one way to change our brain chemistry.  Your Quantum Breakthrough Code is another way.  

Contact me if you want to find out more about EFT tapping.  

To find out more about how you can attract the results you want, go here to download Secrets of Manifestation.  

For lots more resources to help you create the life you want, go here to join my group, The Key to Everything.  

Here's to your success! 

How to Conquer and Eliminate Debt

When we are in debt, we tend to feel extremely stressed.  The debts pile on top of us, higher and higher.  We panic, doing this and doing that, trying to reduce the debt.

We experience feelings of overwhelm, frustration and helplessness.

These feelings of anxiety and  panic can increase the problem.  We worry.  We have sleepless nights.  If I sound like I know how this feels, it's because I do.  I've been through this myself.

However, there is a solution.

When we feel anxious, upset or worried, when we panic and can't seem to find a way out, we are unlikely to be able to think straight.  However, when we calm down, we can find a way to solve this problem.

Go here to download my FREE ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  

Debt DOES NOT have to be an insurmountable problem.  And, over time, we can completely get rid of our debt - we can completely eliminate it.

Your Higher Self, or Higher Mind, can help you find a solutions.  When you calm down and relax, you can call on  your Higher Self.  In the depths of your mind, a solution is just waiting for you to find it and use it.

Go here for some statistics about debt in the United Kingdom.  Did you know debt rose by 27% in 2017?   You may think you are alone, but you're not.

See also:  How to Deal with the Stress of Debt.  

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Violet Flame Healing Meditation

Violet Flame Healing Meditation

        
I am very excited to announce my new Violet Flame Healing Meditation. 

I learned about the Violet Flame when I first became a Reiki and Seichem Master several years ago.

The Violet Flame transmutes negative energy into positive energy.  It is a very ancient healing method which you can apply to any area of  your life.  My new Violet Flame Healing Meditation helps you to connect with the Violet Flame healing energy and can help you to heal your body, mind and emotions.  .

Go here to download your Violet Flame Healing Audio now, or go here for more information.

See also:  Guided Visualization:  Your Key to Power. 

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Reality Transurfing: Pendulums Explained

I have only recently come across the Reality Transurfing principles and actions.  I love it when I find out something new that can be beneficial for us, and I love sharing it with people who can appreciate it.  

This video on Pendulums makes a lot of sense to me.  Pendulums are energies that come together because different people are thinking the same thoughts at the same time.  The more people buy into a particular pendulum, the stronger it becomes. 

I remember thinking this around the time of the new millennium.  The new millennium started in the year 2001, but most people celebrated it at the beginning of 2000.  This will have greatly influenced the planet and all of us on this planet. 

Add to this, Buddhists do not worship any god, or Jesus, or Christ, or a Saviour, whatever you want to call it.  But we still recognised the year 2000 as the beginning of the new millennium.  That is the influence of the Pendulums, or group mentality. 

What is interesting to me is that he says Pendulums are always negative and destructive.  To me, what he is talking about is what Buddhists call "group mentality".  This means fitting in, going along with the crowd, herd mentality, etc.  Rather than owning your own values with integrity, i.e. being an individual. 

So recognising 2000 as the new millennium is not necessarily destructive, and therefore may be a bad example of a Pendulum.  But it is an example of group mentality and how thoughtforms influence all of us. 

I agree with what he is saying - avoid stimulants and tune in to your intuition.  That is how to be an individual - to be true to your own values with integrity. 

You can also find Pendulums that support your values and your goals.  

I am going to continue to learn more about Reality Transurfing, and I will keep blogging about this. 

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Money Makes the World Go Around?

No, it doesn't.  But it stokes the engine and oils the wheels. 

Money and our personal access to resources affects us in all sorts of ways.  Lack of money can affect our self-esteem, i.e. how we feel about ourselves.  Where we can afford to live, what kinds of holidays we can have, even, in some parts of the world (including Britain), whether or not our families will eat today. 

Miki Kashtan argues that the ways we exchange money and resources can be changed by applying empathy.  Wouldn't it be wonderful to live in a world in which everyone has plenty, everyone has access to abundant resources, rather than some people accumulating vast resources and others having nothing? 

It is possible to redress this imbalance.  And Miki gives examples from her own experience.  Check out her blog posts: 

Restoring Flow and Natural Abundance; and

Restoring Flow and Natural Abundance Continued.

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Miki Kashtan: Restoring Flow and Natural Abundance, Continued

In this final part of her blog series, Miki Kashtan continues to explore how we can share resources in ways that encourage connection and are based on empathy.  She describes her experience of the challenges and the joys of working in this way. 

One opportunity for deep transformation emerged from all of us aiming to use money to serve only needs that are truly about sustainability, and not as a substitute for needs that are somehow related to recognition and indirectly to “deserve.” This helps us restore the direct connection between need and resources, instead of mediating it through conceptual structures that reinforce separation and justify scarcity. It was instructive for all to see how many times people slipped into the old ways, and the degree of transformation for them and the group when I invited everyone again into full awareness.

In our team two people had asked for nothing because they are OK financially. Someone pushed just under $1,000 toward one of them, knowing she has an upcoming transition that was stressful for her. And, bit by bit, she pushed it all toward others. She had been profoundly affected by the entire process, from the moment we began, within the team, to examine how much each of us would ask for initially. By the time of the money pile, she had gotten into the trust that, if and when she needs it, somehow it will come to her. Since she didn’t need it then, she wanted it to go to those who did.

At a certain point, money started flowing with the larger group, too. First, money exited our group and was being pushed toward participants, in support of their needs. Then, person after person joined the circle and pushed money, from the pile in the center or from what was already in front of someone, toward someone who needed it, sometimes first adding more money to the pile from their own pockets. Some of it happened directly, and some indirectly. For example, one team member took some of the money in front of him and asked anyone who knew someone else who needed money to take that money and give it to that person. In another moment, I asked people who came from Guatemala, working in difficult circumstances implementing restorative justice, if they needed money for their work.

They looked at each other and said no, and I trusted them. This moment stands out to me, because it offered them the knowledge that their needs mattered and yet that money was then available to give to another community. It seemed as if there would be no end to more money being generated. Even though the overall amounts beyond the initial request were relatively small, the experience of the amount of money growing and growing through generosity and solidarity was nurturing and healing an old collective wound of mistrust.

An entire other theme was working out the challenge that so many women have about asking for money. One woman on the team who’d been really challenged about asking for an amount of money to support her sustainability took some money from the pile, put it on the extra chair, and invited any woman for whom it’s hard to ask for money to come and pull it toward herself, so she would have companionship in this stretching. More and more women then came forward and stretched themselves to do this, and others stretched to give beyond their comfort zone.

Through all of this, we left behind notions of scarcity or transaction, and we fully entered the flow of life. A third of the people were in tears by the end. Several people told me that seeing this process put everything they had learned over eight days into more clarity. Given how long it was, and how far it stretched, I was vividly reminded of the Hanukah oil lasting eight days or the story of Jesus feeding multitudes of people with one loaf of bread. Maybe a better metaphor would be that the money became like a culture that keeps making more and more dough possible. True abundance.

I wonder if something as profoundly based in solidarity and community could have happened in any of the global North countries in which I also teach. Solidarity and generosity are born by knowing that we need each other. When we live isolated, fully transactional lives that give us the illusion that we don’t “need” each other because we have money, we lose out on the possibility of knowing that our lives depend on each other, that we are never separate from others, and that, when in need, if we are part of a community, mutual generosity can be, once again, a way of life. 

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How to Manifest What You Want

Secrets of Manifestation

What kind of year do you want to have in 2019?

Click here to read about how I manifested what I wanted - money, work and relationships.

See also:  How to Be Brilliant at Manifesting.  

I can help you to manifest what you want, too. 

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Happy holidays. Wishing you all the best for 2019.

Miki Kashtan: Restoring Flow and Natural Abundance

In this third part of her blog series, Miki Kashtan continues to explore how we can share resources in ways that encourage connection and are based on empathy.  She describes her experience of the challenges and the joys of working in this way.  

Recently, I’ve been to Mexico City, leading three back-to-back workshops on topics of collaboration, leadership, and social transformation. It was clear to me that I would want to engage in a Financial Co-Responsibility process with the organizing team along the lines described in my previous post.

Central to what Dominic teaches about the Financial Co-Responsibility process is that we develop its specific forms locally, based on a system of agreements between all involved. When gleaned from what works in our local contexts, this supports a positive mutual influencing of the conditions in which we live, and our iterative efforts evolve the process over time. In this first iteration in Mexico, what I invited my colleagues into was based on years of experimenting with various forms of gift economy, most recently specifically influenced by Dominic’s approach. One of the limitations is that my local colleagues and I didn’t actually develop a system together; I was simply asking them to accept a process that I’ve used previously in other contexts, which then began to be organically adapted, as you will see below.

The organizing team accepted, with exquisite grace, my invitation to this experiment, without having previously done anything like it. They went on blind faith.

They told me later that they worked about 4 times as hard as they would have if they’d been organizing the event using the familiar transactional way. They decided what their limits of risk were and operated fully within them, asking most people to pay equally for the basic costs because it was too much risk for them. Even for this part, they did invite some people to come without paying for their food and space rental share.

Had I known how much stress the organizers lovingly accepted, I might have halted the experiment, much to everyone’s loss, because so much was made possible on account of their willingness, and then that of the entire group. First, about 20 of the 110 or so people who participated in the events were women from several Latin American countries working with marginalized or vulnerable communities. Would they have come if there had been a fixed price? It seems unlikely. Then, the entire experience of collecting and distributing money was a small taste of what the world could be like if nonviolent principles were applied globally to economics.

Because people were coming and going between the different events, and because of the way that we collected the money, we didn’t know until hours before the end how much money we would have. Up until then, the organizers were still anxious about whether all people would convert their pledges to money. Then, by the time the money pile started, we were able to celebrate together that we had all we had asked for.

Once we knew how much we had, we created a circle at the center for the organizing and training team and an empty chair for anyone from the larger community to come into the circle and participate. And then the process went on for about two hours until we were all done. Every moment contributed to sustainability for many who needed it (well beyond the original event team), meaning, transformation, trust, connection, and a palpable sense of possibility. Even a little bit of seeming magic: when the process ended, all of us on the team received more or less what we asked for, through many circuitous pathways, and several other people in the community received entirely unexpected small amounts of money in support of their own or their communities’ needs in addition. In the next post, I share some snippets from how this came to be.

Interview with Dh. Subhuti

Dh. Subhuti

Dh. Subhuti is a senior member of the Triratna Buddhist Order and the President of the London Buddhist Centre.  Here, he talks to me about the importance of nonviolence.

One incident he describes reminds me so much of some of the incidents I have noted here.  

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Miki Kashtan: "Financial Co-Responsibility"

In this second part of her blog series, Miki Kashtan continues to explore how we can share resources in ways that encourage connection and are based on needs.  She describes practical ways to implement "financial co-responsibility". 

In the last few years, I’ve been experimenting with one particular process that approximates the gift economy on a small scale: an alternative to how money usually functions now in workshops or other public events. Here’s what I said about this process in a recent blog post:

“Financial Co-responsibility” [was] created by Dominic Barter as part of his pioneering efforts to support system building within communities…I consider [it] a quantum leap in creating a collective capacity for challenging the hidden assumptions that surround money and resources more generally and approximating ever better the matching of resources to needs. This process involves two interconnected circle dynamics, one in which resources are pooled and another in which they are distributed.

What we are familiar with is “charging” money for workshops or other public events, which is then distributed among the event producers and those who train or facilitate based on the familiar logic of exchange: a % of gross or net income; a fixed rate per hour worked; or some permutation of the above.

Instead of charging, I invite people to give the lower of two amounts: what they can based on their resources, and what they are willing based on their connection with the sustainability needs of the event team. And those are estimated by each member of the team based, primarily, on the impact on their sustainability of having participated in the event.

Instead of distributing whatever money is generated within the logic of exchange, based either on “value” or “merit,” I have been experimenting, more and more, with the second dynamic in the Financial Co-Responsibility process, which Dominic calls the “Money Pile.”

I’ve found this part of the process quite demanding of courage, truth, and love, the trio that is the foundation of nonviolence as I understand it. It invites honesty, vulnerability, and care. I’ve seen astounding results happen which have taken whole groups outside the logic of exchange, if only briefly. Here’s the general explanation of how it works, taken from the same blog post: 

The basic format of the money pile is that all those who are requesting to receive money collected at an event gather together and dynamically decide how to divide the money. Initially, the entire amount is in the center. Then individuals either “push” money towards someone else or “pull” money towards themselves, either from the pile at the center (which is what gives this form its name), or from what is already in front of someone. The money pile ends when no new movements are made…

… each person pulling or pushing provides the reasons for their choice, for everyone towitness. Each naming of reasons influences everyone. Mutual influencing, one of the core aspects of community and of interdependence, becomes an explicitly integral part of the process.

My colleagues and I continue to experiment with asking for and distributing money in this way, learning from our experiences and from conversations with Dominic and others about their experience and ours, putting this learning into practice, and iteratively integrating this process – developed in particular contexts in Brazil over the last 15 years - with the contexts in which we use it, while acknowledging and seeking to nurture the context from which it came. One thing that has come from these conversations is an understanding of the importance of including, when we use this process, a flow of resources back to the place where the work originated. I intend to make this part of our future experiments, and encourage others who try it to do so as well.

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Domestic Violence: 50 Shades of Blue Baltimore

Arlene Major is the founder of 50 Shades of Blue Baltimore, an organisation which supports people all year round who are experiencing domesting violence. They hold an annual event in Baltimore, MD, and support everyone regardless of gender, race or any other difference. I caught up with Arlene recently.

When, where and how did you get involved with your organisation?

My organization, 50 Shades of Blue Baltimore, is my brainchild that I created in 2014. I wanted to give back in a way that would make a difference.

Why did you start 50 Shades of Blue Baltimore? 

I started to think of all that I had been through in my life before turning 50 and having survived domestic violence ( 4x) and attempted sexual assault (1x) I knew I had to do it. I turned 50 and my favorite color is blue. My friends came up with the rest.

How do you define domestic violence?

Well, we all know the standard definition of domestic violence or IPV as it is now labeled.  I define it as a silent epidemic.

As you read that last statement, you may have thought of someone you know who is experiencing some level of domestic violence in their relationship. In 2017, when we’ve come so far as a society, domestic violence is still a taboo subject. 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner (as reported by the NCADV). In 2015, Baltimore City and County Uniform Crimes reported 11,267 domestic related crimes.

If those numbers aren’t frightening enough, our current administration is looking to cut 10.5 trillion dollars over the next decade from the Violence Against Women’s Act (VAWA), which currently funds programs that are established to help save victims lives and hold their attackers accountable. If this happens, where does that leave our mothers, sisters, brothers, cousins and best friends. We must stand up, unite and act now!

What has been your involvement with domestic violence, either at work or in your private life?

I have experienced domestic violence personally.  I have never experienced it in the work place. I have had instances where I put myself in harms way to stop a potential fight and other times where I have attempted to help someone to no avail.  I am always available to provide resources and connect people with others in their area that may be able to help them here or abroad.

What are the most common causes of domestic violence?

Usually, what I see is control.  I am the man and you are the woman type things.  I also see in same sex relationships one who believes they are the dominant in the relationship.  Money issues, trauma in childhood or even adulthood and family issues can contribute to the violence.  With all the statistics that are out there, how can we ignore something that is so multilayered as this?

Do you think domestic violence is increasing? Why or why not?

I do think it is increasing in that we have a judicial system that is still stuck in the “old days”.  We also have many citizens that see domestic violence as a private matter and say nothing when they see it out in public.  A blind eye is turned if men are victims. Too many women who don’t get their way will use domestic violence like a get out of jail free card and the sports world is to lienient with its players and violations. We need better laws, better gun laws and stronger violation stipulations and more ways to keep victims free of their abusers.

What services does your organisation offer?

Our event is yearly.  Throughout the year, we can offer resources.  We are working to put in workshops, classes and other sessions geared toward not only the victim but the survivor and the survivor's family as well.

How do people get in touch with you and access your services?

I am all over social media.  I encourage others if they are willing to share their story, with anonymity or not, I put those on my survival story page of my website. I also have a forum where anyone can post a question or email me to ask a question.

(See below for links.)

What outcomes do you achieve? Give us a couple of examples.

What happens when others attend my event is that they feel comfortable and open up and feel empowered to share their story with me or with one of my speakers.  One of my speakers who has been with me for the last two conferences was very shy but wanted to participate. She brought her children because they witnessed what mommy went through.  Each time she shares her story, she feels a level of release or what I call healing. She tells me everytime that she is grateful for this event and wished more people really understood what domestic violence really is.

What are your plans for the future?

My plan so far for 2019 is to take this conference to the DC/VA area.  My ultimate goal is to become a global entity that partners with other agencies and provides a safe place for others to share their stories, get information, get pampered and leave feeling that they are equipped to face the world.

Any other comments?

I am a published author.  I have my story in a few books, including my own, called Lady BluePrint.  I currently have a workbook that is being finalized called Outlasted, Walking thru Your Pain and Purpose.  I plan to begin healing workshops with this workbook and also include, therapy yoga, vision boards, sip and paints and talk sessions as well. I would like to This is great, Arlene.  I do healing workshops as well.  Your work is so important.  There's a great deal of need for what you do.  

 

To contact Arlene and 50 Shades of Blue Baltimore, go to:

IG:  @50shadesofbluebmore (direct message)
Twitter:  50shadesofblue3
FB:  https://www.facebook.com/50shadesbmore/ (Best way to reach her via messenger)

Website:  50shadesofbluebalt.com
Email:  50shadesofbluebaltimore@gmail.com
Telephone:  443-579-5401 (google. If I don’t answer, leave a message and I will return your call)

Miki Kashtan: Recovering the Flow of Resources Part 1

Miki Kashtan

The way we distribute and accumulate resources affects all of our lives, from the personal and interpersonal to the global.  

In the first part of this blog series, Miki Kashtan explores how we can share resources in ways that encourage connection and are based on needs. 

When I was about five, I asked my mother why it was that we needed to pay to get our groceries. Why wouldn’t everyone just come and get what they need? My mother had no response for me, and no one has since. I still believe that money is entirely unnecessary. I still see it as entirely feasible and practical for each of us to receive what we need using available resources created by the generosity or willingness of others. I still see, easily, how this can be orchestrated through community relationships expanded to include the entire global human population. The result can simply be a globally coordinated and locally managed gift economy running entirely without money.

I believe that children often have intense experiences upon discovering the role of money precisely because of its difficult interaction with relationships. When my sister Inbal’s son was still quite young, he learned that some of the people he only knew as his adult friends were receiving money, and he became quite distressed. He recognized, I believe, that exchange undermines relationships. When Inbal was able to explain to him that if they didn’t give them money, they would need to go elsewhere and then have less time with him, he settled, because this explanation was an exit from the logic of exchange, and the relationships were restored for him.

I was well into my 30s when I understood, in a flash, why economics never made sense to me even though I was always very facile with numbers and managed to ace a macroeconomics exam. Economics, has never made sense to me because it is “the study of the allocation of scarce resources” to satisfy “infinite desires and wants.”¹

Money has been a key instrument of supporting separation and scarcity, both of which are fertile grounds for both the everyday and intense forms of violence. Here’s how. Money facilitates exchange which reinforces separation: I give to you not because of my heart’s generosity or willingness; I give to you because I want something back. We are separate, and we “use” each other to satisfy our own desires. Similarly, money facilitates accumulation which reinforces scarcity: when I take more than I need to accumulate, I remove resources from circulation, and there is less available to others.

The logical conclusion for me has been to seek and experiment with as many ways as I know to subvert the logic of exchange and accumulation and to transform my relationship with money for the foreseeable future in which it’s here to stay. 

Stay tuned for this blog series.  

Miki Kashtan is a CNVC Certified Trainer, co-founder of Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (BayNVC) and Lead Collaboration Consultant at the Center for Efficient Collaboration. Go here for her blog, The Fearless Heart.  

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These definitions are ubiquitous. See for example https://www.forbes.com/sites/timworstall/2016/08/15/economics-is-scarce-resources-allocation-what-resource-constraint-does-urban-farming-solve/#369528742a55 accessed Aug 12, 2018.

How to Relax and Reduce Stress

Relaxation and Stress Relief

Did you know that there is a link between stress and the disease process? In order to be healthy, we need to reduce stress. 

EFT can help us to relax and reduce stress.  It can even help us to recover from major trauma.

Listen to this audio on how to reduce stress. 

Click here to contact me for a FREE Consultation. 

Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

Above is a video about parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

We often think, for example, that children are doing things deliberately to annoy us.  But this is not a human need.  What needs are they trying to meet?  And how can parents and children get their needs met?

I have written about NVC in some of my books, including Success Strategies for Black People and Affirmations for Parents.  Go here for books about NVC and nonviolence.

See also:  Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication.

Go here for more NVC videos.   

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Regards,
Zhana

The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.6

Continuing this series of videos with Marshall Rosenberg about the basics of NVC.

When we have our "giraffe" ears on, we hear everything anyone says as giraffe speech.

Nobody can make us do anything.  We always have a choice. 

Go here for part 1.1.

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Go here for part 1.3.

Go here for part 1.4. 

Go here for part 1.5.

See also:  Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication.

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The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.5

Continuing this series of videos with Marshall Rosenberg about NVC.

In NVC, when we judge, we judge whether needs are being met.  Needs are what connects us with life, with the life force energy, and NVC is the language of life.

We need to express our feelings, but our feelings are not dependent on the actions of others.  They are caused by our needs, either met or unmet. 

Go here for part 1.4.

See also:  Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication.

And go here for the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolencee 2018.

The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.4

Continuing this series of videos with Marshall Rosenberg about NVC.  In this video, Marshall explains the diference between observations and evaluations or judgments.

Labelling and judging people decreases the likelihood of getting what we want, and increases the likelihood of violence.

Go here for part 1.3. 

See also:  Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication.

And go here for the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolencee 2018.

The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.3

Continuation of this video series on NVC with Marshall Rosenberg.  When we think we are making observations, often, we are making judgments. 

Go here for part 1.1.

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The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.2

In this video, Marshall continues with the basics of NVC.  He explains "the language of no choice", which is a form of jackal language.

Go here for part one. 

See also:  Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication.

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The Basics of Nonviolent Communication 1.1

This is the first in a series of short videos from Marshall Rosenberg about the basics of NVC.   In this video, he talks about the purpose of NVC:  to connect in a way that makes  natural giving possible.  I love it when Marshall sings and plays the guitar.  He is just not self-conscious or embarrassed in any way - or, at least, he appears not to be. 

In this video, Marshall begins to break down the term "jackal language". 

Go here to see how you can transform your relationships, and your life, with Nonviolent Communication.

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Transform Your Life with Nonviolent Communication

This book has changed my life, and is changing people's lives all over the world. I find Nonviolent Communication SO inspiring. It is about connecting from the heart, in any situation, including situations of extreme violence.

For lots more information about NVC, and NVC resources, see the links below.

One thing I really appreciate about the book Nonviolent Communication is that the author, Marshall Rosenberg, gives lots of real-life examples of people using NVC in their daily lives.

When someone does or says something we don't like, we tend to react. We either judge them, blame them or label them, or a combinaion of the three. In NVC, this is called “jackal speech”.

Nonviolent Communication explains that jackal language is always an indication of unmet needs. Needs are the most important things to us – needs are what connect us to life. Thus, Marshall Rosenberg calls NVC “a language of life”.

Our feelings about ourselves are reflected in the way we speak about ourselves.

Blaming and labelling, or “jackal speech”, is not just directed at other people. We can, and do, jackal about ourselves as well. If you hear yourself saying something along the lines of “I'm so stupid”, this is an example of a self-jackal.

When we start to connect with the unmet needs that lie beneath the surface, we can stop being so angry with ourselves and others. This is the aspect of my NVC practice, and this book, that has affected me most profoundly. This powerful method frees up a lot of joy, energy and self-love. Marshall Rosenberg says, “What would make your life more wonderful?”.

When we have the practical skills which allow us to communicate from the heart, we can transform our relationships with family, loved ones, work colleagues, etc. We can prevent the terrible violence on the streets that our societies are currently experiencing. With the skills NVC gives us, we can transform our world.

I could say a lot more about NVC, but I strongly advise you to read the book. It could change your life.

Buy it here in the U.S.A. 

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For more about NVC, see:

How to Transform Your Relationships

The Need for Self-Connection

Are We Listening to Our Children?

Child Sexual Abuse: Protecting Our Children

Go here for a video of Marshall Rosenberg, The Basics of Nonviolent Communication.

For even more about NVC, see these interviews with NVC authors:

Ike Lasater: From Conflict to Connection

Dian Killan: Connecting across Differences

Sylvia Haskvitz: Eat by Choice, Not by Habit

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How to Be Brilliant at Manifesting

Manifestation

Manifestation is another word for attraction, i.e. attracting what you want - as in the Law of Attraction.    

The truth is, you are manifesting all the time.  But you may not be happy with your results.  If not, I can help.   

I am brilliant at manifesting.  I recently manifested:  

• a brand new cooker (stove); 
• a brand new fridge freezer; and 
• a brand new washing machine.  

And I have achieved similar things many times before.  
For more information on how to manifest successfully, check out my ebook Secrets of Manifestation. 

Please note, this is probably NOT INSTANT manifestation.  But if you invest just a few minutes a day, you can start to make significant changes. 

If you are serious about building your business, go here for Books to Help You Prosper.  
Plus go here for my review of Switchwords:  How to Use One Word to Get What You Want.  
Here's to your success! 

How to Deal with the Stress of Debt

How to Deal with the Stress of Debt

  

         I  have been watching "Can't Pay?  We'll Take It Away".  

It's so sad to see these people and companies that have got into debt for a variety of reasons. 

We know that being in debt can be very stressful. 

Sleepless nights, bailiffs knocking on your door - it's not nice. I have been through this myself.  And it was horrible. 

Go here to download my ebook, Secrets of Manifestation.  

For a FREE consultation with me, click here to contact me.  

Some facts about debt in the UK:  

According to Peppergoup, the number of County Court Judgements (CCJs) registered against consumers has risen to the highest level in over a decade during the first six months of 2017, as is confirmed by figures released by Registry Trust. 

One reason why so many more CCJs are being issued is that these judgements are being brought for smaller amounts of money than previously.  

In the first two quarters of 2017, 592,552 CCJs were registered against consumers in England and Wales. This figure is up 41% on the same period in 2016 and is the highest half-year figure since before the financial crisis.

Cocredo reports that the latest figures released by the Registry Trust show that the number of county court judgments (CCJs) registered against businesses in England and Wales rose during the third quarter of 2017, compared with the same period a year earlier.

During Q3 2017, there were 24,698 CCJs registered against businesses in England and Wales, which is a 27 percent increase than the same quarter in 2016. Prior to this figures had decreased year on year for the past 8 years. The total value of all business CCJs rose by 13 percent to £80,506,210; this was the first time since Q3 2011 that a relative increase occurred. 

The number of CCJs issued rose for the first time in eight years – and has rocketed by more than a quarter since 2016.

If you are worried or stressed about your finances, if you need help or support, please contact me for a FREE consutation.  There is no reason to be embarrassed.  

See also:  Financial Healing.  

I look forward to hearing from you.  

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