In this final part of her blog series, Miki Kashtan continues to explore how we
can share resources in ways that encourage connection and are based on empathy. She describes her experience of the challenges and the joys of working in this way.
One opportunity for
deep transformation emerged from all of us aiming to use money to
serve only needs that are truly about sustainability, and not as a
substitute for needs that are somehow related to recognition and
indirectly to “deserve.” This helps us restore the direct
connection between need and resources, instead of mediating it
through conceptual structures that reinforce separation and justify
scarcity. It was instructive for all to see how many times people
slipped into the old ways, and the degree of transformation for them
and the group when I invited everyone again into full awareness.
In our team two people
had asked for nothing because they are OK financially. Someone pushed
just under $1,000 toward one of them, knowing she has an upcoming
transition that was stressful for her. And, bit by bit, she pushed it
all toward others. She had been profoundly affected by the entire
process, from the moment we began, within the team, to examine how
much each of us would ask for initially. By the time of the money
pile, she had gotten into the trust that, if and when she needs it,
somehow it will come to her. Since she didn’t need it then,
she wanted it to go to those who did.
At a certain point,
money started flowing with the larger group, too. First, money exited
our group and was being pushed toward participants, in support of
their needs. Then, person after person joined the circle and pushed
money, from the pile in the center or from what was already in front
of someone, toward someone who needed it, sometimes first adding more
money to the pile from their own pockets. Some of it happened
directly, and some indirectly. For example, one team member took some
of the money in front of him and asked anyone who knew someone else
who needed money to take that money and give it to that person. In
another moment, I asked people who came from Guatemala, working in
difficult circumstances implementing restorative justice, if they
needed money for their work.
They looked at each other and said no,
and I trusted them. This moment stands out to me, because it offered
them the knowledge that their needs mattered and yet that money was
then available to give to another community. It seemed as if there
would be no end to more money being generated. Even though the
overall amounts beyond the initial request were relatively small, the
experience of the amount of money growing and growing through
generosity and solidarity was nurturing and healing an old collective
wound of mistrust.
An entire other theme
was working out the challenge that so many women have about asking
for money. One woman on the team who’d been really challenged about
asking for an amount of money to support her sustainability took
some money from the pile, put it on the extra chair, and invited any
woman for whom it’s hard to ask for money to come and pull it
toward herself, so she would have companionship in this stretching.
More and more women then came forward and stretched themselves to do
this, and others stretched to give beyond their comfort zone.
Through all of this, we
left behind notions of scarcity or transaction, and we fully entered
the flow of life. A third of the people were in tears by the end.
Several people told me that seeing this process put everything they
had learned over eight days into more clarity. Given how long it was,
and how far it stretched, I was vividly reminded of the Hanukah oil
lasting eight days or the story of Jesus feeding multitudes of people
with one loaf of bread. Maybe a better metaphor would be that the
money became like a culture that keeps making more and more dough
possible. True abundance.
I wonder if something
as profoundly based in solidarity and community could have happened
in any of the global North countries in which I also teach.
Solidarity and generosity are born by knowing that we need each
other. When we live isolated, fully transactional lives that give us
the illusion that we don’t “need” each other because we have
money, we lose out on the possibility of knowing that our lives
depend on each other, that we are never separate from others, and
that, when in need, if we are part of a community, mutual generosity
can be, once again, a way of life.
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